10 Things Every Husband Wishes Their Wife Knew About Sex

It's common knowledge that men are more demanding than women where sex is concerned. This does not mean there aren’t some exceptions to the rule.

On the other hand, most women wish they can get into their husband's head and know what they're thinking or what they want where bedroom activities are concerned.

If you are also curious to know what husbands wish their wives knew about sex but are too afraid to say, then check out the list below as compiled by MissionWife:

1. Sex is not optional in his mind: To a husband, sex is about right up there on the list with eating and breathing. Can he survive without it? Yes, but it's not fun at all. Sex is to the man, what talking/communication is to the woman. If you would ask several wives if it would be ok if their husband didn't listen or communicate with them for weeks at a time – well, you get the idea. Frequent sex = happy, attentive, listening, cuddling, caring, talking husband.
2. Husbands use sex to reconnect: Think of it this way - let's use the example of a cordless phone. Let's say the husband is the cordless handset, and the wife is the base. The handset may hold a charge for a while off the base, maybe even for a couple of days. But sooner or later, the handset is going to have to be recharged/reconnected to the base to keep the battery charged, the programming updated, and the phone usable. When your husband comes home from a long day at work, and the first thing on his mind is sex, it's not that he's some sort of sex addict, it's just him longing to "return to his base" and reconnect with his wife in a "I've had a long day, and I need assurance that no matter how hard life gets, you and I are ok" way.
3. He doesn't always want to be the one asking: Most husbands are fine with being the "sexual aggressor" most of the time, but if he is ALWAYS the one that is trying to start something, he starts to feel like you just "put up with him", and don't really care about sex. Every husband's fantasy is to be sitting there on the couch, watching TV or whatever, and have his wife come over out of nowhere (obviously the kids aren't around), straddle him, and start going at it. He wants to know that his wife DESIRES him sexually, not just PUTS UP WITH HIM sexually. This is a huge boost to his self-esteem and overall confidence.
4. He thinks you're GORGEOUS, and you can't change that:It doesn't matter how you feel about that left over baby fat, or how you cringe when you look in the mirror and see those stretch marks – your husband couldn't care less! He thinks you're the most beautiful woman on the face of the earth, and even when he tells you this, you dismiss it, and say stuff like "thanks hon, but I don't think so", or "well, you may feel that way, but nobody else does". Please don't do this! Your husband isn't trying to "put you on" by telling your he thinks your body is amazing - he truly thinks it is! You have to learn to accept the compliment as him being honest, and say thank you, instead of trying to play it off.
5. Sometimes he just wants to look at you NAKED: If you husband is working hard to avert his eyes from every other sexual source besides his wife, not viewing any porn, not checking out the girl on the billboard, etc - he has a God-given need/desire/appetite to admire his wife's naked body. This may seem strange to you, but it's true. So, when you're getting dressed in the morning, or ready for bed at night, don't try to position yourself so he can't see those parts of you. It's ok! He's not going to attack you and want to have sex (as long as you have a regular sex life), he just wants to appreciate your beauty for a little bit! Remember, you are his only sexual source! Wouldn't you rather have him looking at you, than some billboard model? A lot of wives say that they are scared if they allow their husbands to see them nude, they will want to have sex right that minute. If it's been a week since you've made love, this may be true, but if you have sex regularly, sometimes it's nice for him to just be able to admire what he thinks is the most amazing body he has ever seen. So linger a little while when you bend over to pick up your socks off the floor, or let your robe "accidentally" fall open a little when he walks by. Not only will he love it, but you just might find yourself thinking about sex a little more during the day, leading to a greater chance of you desiring intimacy later that night.
6. He loves it when you surprise him: That is, do something totally out of the ordinary, just for his benefit, and to see the look on his face. A few examples would be: Going out to dinner, and while you're waiting for the waitress to seat you, lean over and whisper in his ear "You won't have to take my panties off later when we get home, because I'm not wearing any". Or after the kids go to bed and you're going to curl up and watch a movie together, go into your room to "get your PJ's on" and come back out with no top on, telling him you're going to need his help keeping warm, because somebody told you it was "topless movie night". Once you pick his jaw up off the floor, you might just find he isn't paying much attention to the movie anymore. Another one would be to surprise him when he is taking a shower by jumping in the shower with him that "you're having a hard time using your hands this morning, so he is going to have to help soap you up today." You'll have your husband wondering what's gotten into you!
7. If you have to say "no" to sex, watch how you say it: It may seem silly, but you have no idea how hard it is sometimes, for a man to get up the nerve to ask his wife if she wants to have sex. Usually he will try to "test the waters" first, by hinting at it, or maybe a little grab here and there, to see how you'll respond. All this time there is a little argument going on in his head sounding something like this - "Just ask her! No, last time I asked her flat-out, she rolled her eyes and said something about that's all I think about. Yeah, but this time it might work. Come on, I really want to make love. Can't she see that? Maybe I'll ask her later after dinner. Yeah, I'll help with the kids and the dishes, and then ask later. (fast forward to 7pm) Ok, see, I got the dishes done, maybe I should hint at it now. Nah, I'll wait until the kids go to bed. As soon as the kids go to bed, she'll be able to think about me. She has to know it's been a couple of days, I'm sure she'll be ok with it. Right? (The kids go to bed) Ok, I think I'll ask now! Wait, she looks like she's got something going there on the computer, I'll give her some time to get that done. I'll just ask her when we go to bed, it will be more of a sure bet then anyway. (10pm rolls around, and they're crawling into bed) Ok, I'm going to ask! "hey hon, do you want to make love?" This is how it goes in a guy's head when he's thinking about asking for sex. Why? Because guys have this strange tendency to make sexual rejection (even with a good reason), a personal rejection. Since the need for regular sex with his wife is so much a part of who he is, any rejection of that need, feels like a rejection of HIM to your husband. Now obviously there are times when you are going to have to say "not tonight hon", but the key is HOW YOU SAY IT. Don't do it in a nonchalant or dismissing way. Remember, he has been working up the nerve to ask you for the past several hours most times. When you deny him, say something like this – "Hon, I love to have sex with you, but I just can't do it tonight because (fill in the blank)" Then if he's really pent-up, you could offer to help him out in another way besides intercourse, or give him a realistic date to "get a rain check", like tomorrow morning, or the next evening. That way he feels like you understand he has a legitimate need, he feels like you care, and he feels like you want to help him as soon as possible. You're still saying "not tonight", but he doesn't feel like you don't care, you're just blowing him off, or that you think sex is not important.
8. He LOVES to see you turned on: There is nothing quite as sexy to a husband, as seeing his wife thoroughly turned on, and enjoying sex. In the same way, there's nothing quite as discouraging to a husband, as you laying there with an almost bored look on your face, and with the attitude of "would you just get it over with please, so I can go to sleep". To your husband, his ability to arouse, stimulate, tease, drive you crazy with desire, and help you climax, is a huge part of what he feels his "worth" is as a husband. If he feels like he is failing in bed, he is going to be discouraged in other areas of life too. In contrast, if he feels his wife thinks he's amazing in the bedroom, he is going to be much more confident and have a "I can conquer the world" attitude. You can help this by showing and telling him (not in a faking it way) how much he turns you on, or makes you feel good, as you're making love. Obviously he's not going to do everything right, but make sure you let him know when he DOES hit the right spot, or do something you find particularly hot. Some wives ask the question "but what about the times that I'm not really into it, but am doing it because I love my husband, and know he needs it tonight?" Husbands understand you're not going to have the same drive for sex that he has every time. He gets that. All he's hoping for when this is the case, and you're just giving him a "quickie" for release, is to not make him feel like he's annoying for wanting it, or that he interrupting your day and you have so many other things you could be doing. He needs feel accepted by you, even when you're not particularly into it this time. Smile and give him that "come here baby, I know you need it and I'm here for you" attitude. Whispering a little encouragement in his ear in the process is a huge bonus too.
9. He wants sex to be adventurous sometimes: Some husbands ask "how do I get my wife to be a little more adventurous with sex? (different locations, positions, etc)" Here's the deal - there are 3 basic "kinds" of sex for a guy. There's what we like to call the "normal" or "go to" sex (mostly in the bedroom, consisting of what we know always works, and satisfies both parties), there's "Quickie sex" (a quick but passionate encounter that provides release when a longer session isn't realistic at the time), and there's "out of the ordinary" or "adventurous" sex (sex in a not normal location (outside, back of the mini van, etc), or learning a different technique or position that may be out of the "normal sexual menu" for the couple). This is usually a tough one for wives to understand, because for the most part, a woman approaches sex with a "I like to stick to what works, and what is comfortable" , where a guy's attitude may be more "I like normal most of the time, but sometimes I want to make it exciting and try new places". While we're not suggesting you go make love in the city park and get arrested, what we are saying is to try to understand where your husband is coming from. He sometimes sees sex as an adventure that you both are going on together. He wants you to be excited/thrilled to be on this adventure with him.
10. Be a student of your husband: Learn and observe what you husband likes in the bedroom (or out…). What colour of panties/bra does he like best on you? What parts of your body drives him most wild? What turns him on the most? What turns him off? Does like it when you're express yourself loudly when you have sex? What is his favorite position/location? A wife who is willing to learn the ins and outs of what her husband likes most when it comes to sex, will have one of the happiest husbands on earth.