Children are gifts from God. Raising a girl-child isn’t as easy as it seems, here are some tips that’ll guide us in bringing-up our girl-child in the way that pleases God:
*EMBRACE MODESTY: Given the current state of things, does modesty even matter? YES it does! We are so affected by the world around us that sometimes we don’t even stop to think about what our appearance says about us, not to talk of the clothes we give our teenage daughters to wear.Imagine the impact of improper dress on men who have serious lust problem,or those who don’t even recognize it as a problem(they’re everywhere). What one would have considered unacceptable and risque is now not just accepted,but commonplace.REMEMBER the way in which your teenage girl dresses will also impact their behaviour and attitude towards sex. Mind the clothes u give them to wear!
*DEFINE FAMILY MODESTY STANDARD: what’s modesty? Modesty means different things to different ppl. Inorder to teach our daughters the value of modesty in a world where modesty is prudish,we must make effort to establishe clearly what we consider to be modest. When i was in secondary school for example, exposing a bra strap would have been embarrassing for a teen girl, but today its considered no big deal and infact many girls in sec school purposely wear designer straps as a fashion statement. So its up to you as a parent to set the family standard, discuss it with your spouse and come out with some guildlines that you can pass on to your daughters.Talk about a specific age when it comes to wearing make-up,heels etc and be prepared to explain your decision making process. You are the home-maker!
*VALUE CHARACTER OVER APPEARANCE: Its important to tell your daughters how beautiful she is, so that she doesn’t have to go outside the family to hear this message. We need to counteract our culture’s influence by placing value on what God values-the inner heart and character of an individual. It takes beauty to attract a man and character to keep him.
*RECOGNIZE DAD”s CRITICAL ROLE: Never under-estimate the influence of a dad, Dad”s approval is extremely significant in your daughter’s life. So fathers need to be careful in how they relate to them.both words and tone matters alot. Let him play his role as the head!
*DON’T SKIP THE TEtE-a-tete PART: Unlike when we grew-up, things ve change. I for example, when growing-up i never enjoyed this part as a teenager(mum’s very strict and always busy), i could remember vividly when i first started menstruating i was like “mum! Mum!! Come see I’ve got wound down here and its painless”(poor,ignorant me) lol, that was when mum started telling me what she ought to ve told me before then (ain’t saying mah mum’s bad tho). So i urge u mothers to be bosom-friend to your daughters, let them know their body parts and functions as children, say to them “don’t let anyone touch you down there(womanliness) anyhow cause that place is sacred. Caution them!
Most importantly always pray for your daughters, its a very different world than the one we grew-up and the temptations are more overt and bold. Pray fervently that she will have the heart that seeks to know God the more,
The Lord is our strength!
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